The next time you find yourself in an argument, try this: Instead of arguing back, ask a question that gets the other person to say it for you.
Instead of "but that was just one time!" say, "How many times did that happen?"
People are more receptive to an idea when they hear it coming out of their own mouth. We are protective of our own thinking and guarded about others'. We can connect with people more easily by embracing this. Instead of trying to affect someone's thinking, we cothink by participating in it. When we participate, they want to participate too. When we collaborate, we no longer feel the separation between their thinking and our own.
Cothinking is a technique for negotiation, persuasion, intimacy, and conflict-resolution. When done well, we feel we are sharing a mind. As you learn the ./core-concepts in this tree, you'll find yourself applying them to dating, parties, romantic disagreements, work meetings, and countless situations.
The ideas contained in /adam/cothinking were originally destined for a book. However, I quickly realized the discussion was nonlinear. It's a tree of knowledge that is best represented by a tree flow as is provided by Smosa. It's also a living tree that I add to and grow over time.
The best way to navigate this tree is to let yourself wander. Click through links in the text or explore the branches at the bottom of each page.
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